When the Wheel Comes Off

Last night I was riding on the back of a golf cart. As we rounded a corner the right rear wheel fell off, the cart tilted, and the axle put a grove in the pavement. We were in shock. Unharmed, we slowed to the side of the road.

The wheel had four bolts and they were scattered along the road. It was dark and the neighborhood was quiet. Somehow my son found the bolts. It had happened before and he knew where to look. I was went looking for the wheel, but when it came off, it kept rolling ahead of us into a neighbor’s flower bed.

Sometimes when our plans go bad we just find the bolts and put the pieces back together. The road may be scarred but it still works. I’m a big believer in the value of failing and taking risks around the corner.

But sometimes poor decisions have a bigger cost. Sometimes the consequences roll ahead of us and impact the future. This isn’t about mitigating risk, this has more to do with our character and integrity.

Leave a good legacy.

Noticed

Do you ever wonder if anyone notices you and the work you do?

I was part of a Fall Festival with games and food for families on Saturday. Many volunteers and staff worked hard. We were proud of our service and everyone enjoyed the event.

The next day, after church, someone gave me a note. It said, “… your behind the scenes works are such a great part … I just wanted to let you know how much you are appreciated.”

During my normal work I am noticed and encouraged. My tank is usually full. It is a great workplace.

Yet, we all wonder… does anyone know what I do? The note. It felt good and now sits on my home desk. It’s just a reminder… we are noticed.

You may not receive a note, but you are noticed.

You are leaving a legacy … leave a good legacy.

PS. Write someone a note … it may be the only encouragement they receive.

Daily Reminders

Being overloaded with information is a common danger most people face.

I recently had a conversation with a long-time friend. We went to school before computers and the internet. Typing with whiteout – look it up. We talked about how we searched hard for information – library, radio, actually go hear someone speak … that is if you could find out where they were speaking.

I don’t miss those days, but I have to be intentional on how I control the information overload that comes my way … or else I will not remember the few things that are really important to me. Here’s a simple way I remember the important things.

Every morning I look at 5 note cards. They sometimes change, but they are reminders of my identity, my values and my purpose. One of the sayings is, “My life has authority from the autonomous monotony of the daily disciples of life.” It is the power of the daily ordinary.

This keeps me grounded. Every single day I am reminded of who I am and what I believe/value and what I am pursuing.

Leaving a good legacy … one day at a time.

Keep Pursuing

Some want to be a Guru on the mountain top where pilgrims go to seek wisdom.

Instead of sitting on the mountain top, why not keep pursuing your dreams and mission. More will want to learn from you as you are doing and living ….. than by sitting there waiting for others to seek you out.

Keep moving forward. Keep pursuing.

Leave a good legacy.

One Decision

In 1958 my parents moved to Atlanta to pursue a dream. My dad was given an opportunity to advance his career. They moved away from family and friends for something that they thought was better.

Their decision to pursue something new gave me a path to run on that previously did not exist … and it has made all the difference.

A decision you make today can change the course of a generation. Leave a good legacy.

Make it Special

Your kids and grandkids will remember the “special” preparation to make something fun.

You can make things special, and it doesn’t cost much. My wife is the best.

Our table for a lunch yesterday had clippings from purple, red and golden bougainvilleas. It was beautiful.

Our grandkids loved a home made pistachio cake. They still talk about a scavenger hunt around our home just taking pictures with a phone.

The kids love looking at themselves in new photos printed monthly (just a few) on a bulletin board around my desk.

Simple, intention “things”, that little eyes remember. I hope for a lifetime.

Make it special and be present to enjoy it with them.

It is your legacy. Leave a good one.

Your Tone

What is the tone of your life….your parenting…your relationships?

During this week of Good Friday and Easter I am reading in the Bible. I noticed that the tone of Jesus was different from the religious leaders.

Jesus washed his followers feet, even the one who betrayed him. The greatest one in the room was a servant.

The religious leaders were angry and loud. They were trying to hold on to power and control. They were afraid of losing their authority.

So often we can find ourselves trying to lead others, and even our family, from power and fear instead of service.

Your family knows your tone….and they will remember it the rest of their lives. Make sure it is a tone of serving them.

It is your legacy. Leave a good one.

Write It Down

It is your life. It is your story. It is your legacy. Write it down.

Not everyone likes to write or writes well. Yet, when a story is written down, there is a lingering power of influence.

Either write your stories or have someone else write them. I have family photos, WWII photos and a few stories shared over the years from my family regarding my dad. However, the stories written by others provide the most lasting memories of the few short years I spent with him.

The month my dad died the company he worked for printed a story in their monthly newsletter. The article described his struggle with cancer while still working a full day and serving civic and charitable causes.

When he was asked why he kept so busy … he said, “ …. helping others, keeps me alive.”

I have forgotten most words spoken about my dad, but at least once a year I look at a folded newsletter in my sock drawer. It reminds me of his life of service.

His life, his story, his legacy has become my life of service and my story and now my legacy…..because it was written down.

Write it down.

Persist

Persistence, perseverance and endurance are key character qualities to model. As you tell stories of when you endured difficult circumstances, also include stories that may not be so serious. Here’s one of mine.

I learned a lot about persistence the day I shot my future son-in-law.

Fishing is not the only thing we do at my uncle’s farm. Many hours have been spent on the back porch reading, napping and “visiting”. From the porch you can see both ponds, two old country barns, shade trees and a clothesline hooked between two posts.


One day our family gathered on the screened porch when suddenly we became aware of an unidentifiable movement. I’m not sure who saw it first, but a long snake had slithered through the azaleas and it’s head reared up and pressed his face up against the screen. It was eye level with the occupants on the love seat. You can only imagine the hysteria that took place. We found high ground quickly standing on the furniture. We were screaming even though a steel screen protected us.


Most logic had evaporated from the educated brain pool on the porch, so I “brave the wild” with the only weapon that I could find… my handy dandy, low-powered BB gun. It was about time to graduate it from shooting cans off the fence post. With a carton of BBs in hand, I loaded twenty BBs and commenced firing… this was it…time to save the family.


The snake had wound its way through the thick azaleas so there was no way for me to determine my effectiveness or to see the entire snake. Load and shoot. Only half of the shots were getting anywhere near the snake’s head. As I reloaded and continued firing, those on the porch began screaming and dancing uncontrollably. Then I heard, “Dad! Stop! You just shot (name withheld – a future son-in-law)”. Apparently a couple of shots had hit the brick wall behind the azaleas and ricocheted through the screen hitting him in the calf. A complete circus of craziness echoed through the country.

I repositioned my aim away from my son-in-law and continued the assault. It took endless rounds before the feat was accomplished. Dragging the snake out with a rake revealed that he was over 6 feet.

The force of the BB was not strong enough to penetrate the skin, but it was strong enough to give the snake a bad headache. Small actions, done consistently, will be productive over time.

All participants survived and now live to tell the story of the day I shot one of my son-in-laws, instead of my story of persistence.

It is your life. It is your story. It is your legacy.

Persist.